Every relationship has its ups and downs; it’s the rarest of rare couple that doesn’t run into a few bumps in the road. If you recognize ahead of time, though, what those relationship problems might be, you’ll have a much better chance of getting past them.
They hang in there, tackle problems, and learn how to work through the complex issues of everyday life. Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counseling, observing other successful couples, or simply using trial and error. But each couple has their own thing.
All relationship problems generally stem from the root – poor communication. You can’t communicate while you’re checking your whatsapp messages, watching TV, or flipping through the sports section of a magazine. One must communicate regularly and most of us fail to remove time and communicate effectively. Communication doesn’t only mean talking; some of us overdo it by just rattling our own things. One must learn the knack of listening. Communication involves both listening and talking.
Here are a few ways to communicate effectively:-
- If you live together, put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids to bed, and let voicemail pick up your calls. Don’t be on the phone when you’re with your partner.
- If you can’t “communicate” without raising your voices, go to a public spot like the library, park, or restaurant where you’d be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.
- Just like the way you have “me” time create an “us” time with your partner where you’ll can do things together which both of you’ll like and enjoy. Do outdoor activities together, fun games or trips, trekking, outings, games, etc.
- If you can’t or don’t want to listen, convey it to your partner. Do not pretend to listen.
- Share your views and opinions with your partner. It helps in understanding and bonding.
There is no problem you can’t solve. Always remember it’s you who wanted this relationship so nurture it. Don’t just let it go in vain for simple petty issues. Sometimes it becomes really important to express your feelings and make the other person feel loved.
– Anjani M Nautiyal
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