Why Flirting Is Good For You

Flirting is in a man’s genes. Reproductive genes, that is.

You can blame your urge to ‘check out’ the eye candy around you on the primate need to save the species from extinction by continuously scanning for the most fertile woman. Yes, women do this too, but they’ve been blessed with the discrete gene, probably to allow them to look for the reddest-blooded male even while co-existing peacefully with their current hunting-gathering provider.

Women have contradicting opinions on flirting, as they do on almost anything. They like being the subject of attention, but dislike ‘their’ men flirting with other women. They bat their baby-blues at anyone who will notice, but heaven forbid their boyfriend or husband does the same! However, whether women agree or disagree, flirting is both good fun and a learning experience, so I posit reasons why flirting is good for you:

1. Flirting boosts your self-concept

I know someone who was very shy around women once, forced himself to speak to five women on the street everyday. He went from reserved and introverted to being the life of the party, all in the span of one month. Why? Well, I’m sure the fact that beautiful women found him attractive enough or respectable enough to strike up a conversation with a random stranger helped in some way. No, you don’t have to be a male model for women to respond to your teasing comments. Women these days take to the nice-guy kind more often than the hunk, it seems.

2. Flirting helps you take calculated risks

If you believe that every woman will be putty in your hands, you’re mistaken. Any man can spot the easy type, which is why they’re not the most sought after when a man’s looking to have a thought-provoking conversation. Instead, if you’re able to initiate a discussion with one of the stand-offish ones, you might find the chase a tad sweeter. Honing your skills until you know one kind of woman from another lets you practise getting rejected, and teaches you to take rejection like a man!

3. Flirting teaches you more than you want to know about personality

Because flirting is a lot about body language. How amenable is she for a conversation? For aone-nighter? Is she emotionally low and therefore available, or is she so upset that she might reach out for the pepper spray? The more ‘experienced’ you are at flirting, the better you will be able to predict her behavior!

4. Flirting emboldens you

Meeting girls is a game. Heck, even life is a game. Loosen up. Take it easy. Grab the opportunity when one arises. You might not see her again, or the timing might be wrong later. After all, with nothing to lose except a few sharp comments, you will be up for more adventure, and possibly more willing to let your wild side show.

5. Flirting makes you happier♥

Or maybe just being a cheerful person makes you a better flirt. In either case, few women are attracted to the morose, gloomy type. I know that humour ranks high on most women’s list of ‘key characteristics to look for in a man’. Anyway, to discover that a beautiful woman wants to chat with you is a happy realization indeed!

Looked at from this perspective, flirting is a giant compliment to a woman. It makes her day. She will probably be nicer to her family, her co-workers, her customers. Why then does flirting have such a bad reputation?

So how many women did you compliment today?

HARSHVARDHAN SINGH.