How to be a good girlfriend / boyfriend?

                                    We all wanna take the plunge and get into a relationship. The thought of getting committed and the excitement of having a girlfriend/boyfriend does tempt us all. We chase behind the person with whom we want to get into a relationship and strive hard to capture their attention. We leave no stone unturned to impress them. What happens once we are in the relationship we were trying to get into desperately? Why does love or spark fizzle out in a month or a year or later?

It’s because we start taking the person and relationship for granted. It’s just how a child plays with a new toy in the beginning and begins to lose interest soon. But we aren’t children and it’s a person and not a toy. There is nothing lost between the people except for the efforts which they no longer take to make the other person feel special. Why do we need to wait for a Valentine’s Day to plan a romantic date? Why do we have to wait for a birthday to gift the one we love?

Being a good girlfriend or boyfriend is no rocket science. It is just somewhere deep within us forgotten. We always know what to do but for some reason we silently wait for someone else to tell us what to do. Sometimes we are just too occupied to realise how much we have ignored the one person we love. So for all those who have just begun dating or whose memory has been wiped by the tides of time, here are a few tips which could rekindle the magic in your relationship and make you a good girlfriend/boyfriend:-

• Always express your feelings, the other person ain’t blessed with any special power to hear your thoughts
• If your upset or hurt about something communicate to your partner as sometimes his/her acts maybe unintentional and the devoid of communication may cause unnecessary misunderstandings
• Don’t wait for any occasion to make them feel special, you don’t necessarily have to plan an elaborate dinner or buy an expensive gift to make him/her feel special
• Have a certain things which you would like to do as a couple, play certain games, go trekking, learn dance… any other activity which would help you’ll spend time together and make your bond stronger
• Sometimes all your partner wants is your support and encouragement without any questions or advice. Stand by them at such times
• Keep up with your casual dates and flirting
• Do little things for your partner which would make them happy
• Always try and remove time for him/her even if you are really busy
• Try to get him/her meet your friends would help your partner to gel with your friends … friends are very important for a healthy relationship
• Make birthdays special by doing things which your partner would like
• Celebrate anniversaries in an unusual way
• Always respect your partners sensibilities and emotions

This is all I could help you’ll with… now the ball is in your court. It’s up to you how to take it from here. Wish you luck.

–         Anjani M Nautiyal