In the ever-changing world, where we seem to accept the westernized cultures in our lives, there are these some things that still cannot be accepted openly. In a country like India, where people are deeply rooted within their cultures and values, the topic of losing virginity before marriage makes a real big deal, where even love marriages and live-in-relationships are still a taboo. These are sensitive topics and matters related to these get very intense at times.
So do you think losing virginity before marriage is a big deal or not? If you see the current scenario of our society, the present generations feel that premarital sex is not a big deal, as people have their right to choose what they want for themselves, with whom they want to spend their life and with whom they want to lose their virginity to. Most of the people feel that if they love someone, it’s ok to lose their virginity to them even if they are not sure of being with them as one cannot predict one’s future with a particular person. As humans face hunger for two things love and sex, so at times they would not mind losing oneself to someone to fulfil their sexual desires, rather than waiting for the right time.
Should it be a big deal only for women or even for men? In our male dominating society, a woman’s character is decided by her being a virgin, if she has lost her virginity before marriage that means she is characterless. So why this thought is not applicable to men? Men having sex is no big deal but a woman does the same thing then she is bad. Why this mentality? If it’s wrong, it should apply on both and not on woman itself. Why that is only the woman has to be pure to be married to a man? Do you know, at times the girl has to go through two finger test to prove her virginity or white bed sheets are put to check her virginity on the first night for her married life. This is something truly wrong.
Let’s face it, whether we accept it or not losing virginity before marriage is actually a big deal in our country. Sex is a pure thing only when it is done after marriage with your partner for life and anything before that is against our culture, it is definitely related to our morals and integrity. Our thoughts may change but our culture and traditions still remains the same. The world is not modern we only have that perception in our mind that it is “Modern”. Every new generation thinks that they are broad minded and open to new thoughts but they are still living in the same old society of people with substandard minds. If people cannot accept the fact of love marriages then premarital sex and live-in relationship is far beyond the mentality of the people. We cannot even openly talk about sex and condoms then it’s obvious that the society would not accept anything more sensitive like these.
Whether it is a big deal or not depends in the society we live in, may be these things could be common in western countries but in India where every small thing is turn into a big fuss, I’m sure it makes a big deal.
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